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What men really want (from a woman). |
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Dad's response: |
Of course,
every man is different. Some men are crazy for guns, others like
to pray in a church (and quite a few like both). Some like to
run marathons, others like to sleep on a couch. Some men like
boxing matches, others like to collect butterflies. Many men like to be
rich, some like to be famous. Some men like to be smart, others
like to be strong. But there are a few things most
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Sex. Men's behavior towards women is
initially driven by the desire
to find a sex partner. If a man pays attention to a woman, the
first thing he thinks about is how to get into her pants.
It doesn't matter whether the woman is a sharp
Harvard-graduate or a cute cashier at Wal-Mart's - if a man is
interested it is, at first, always about sex (Sorry - 99% of men
initially don't care about your intelligence, your cloth, or your make
up.) |
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Admiration.
In the presence of women men usually have the desire to show off. They show off their bodies, their intelligence, their wealth or
their power. Men have to establish a position of strength - otherwise they feel unsure or even threatened. |
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The feeling of power and
dominance. Men want to be seen as strong and powerful. Very
few men are comfortable with a dominating, intelligent woman.
Perhaps this is the reason, why more and more young men today
remain in the development stage of "boy-men". They cannot grow
up, because they constantly feel intimidated by more and more
dominating and independent young women. |
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Comfort. If they can afford it, most men are lazy bums. They
like to be pampered. They like a woman to wash their socks, clean the kitchen,
take care of grocery shopping, cook their food, bring the
children to hockey training and put out clean bed covers. Lots
of men like nothing more than dozing on a couch after having sex
and watching TV with a beer and a sack of potato chips. |
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Independence.
Men (sometimes) love to feel independent - even if they are not. They race
around with their cars, motor bikes or speed boats - feeling
great. It gives them a sense of freedom and of being in control.
Men like to go on adventure. |
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Protective aggression.
Men like to be the tough guys
who protect their country, their family, their religion, or their "tribe", which can be something as stupid as getting into a brawl over a
football club. In fact, men have started real shooting wars to
get revenge for a lost football match. The desire to defend
their turf is built into the male genome by the evolution. Human
males are fiercely territorial. Perfectly harmless men can
become psychopathic killing machines when they believe they are
defending their nation, their tribe, their religion, their gang, or their
race against "ruthless" enemies. When in such a state, ordinary
men can commit the most brutal atrocities against other men, women and
children. |
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Shaunti Feldhahn (2013)
For Women Only. What you need to know about the inner lives of men.
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James Taylor (2013)
How Men Think. Read his mind & unlock the secrets to his heart.
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Cynthia W. Gentry / Nima Badley (2006)
What Men Really Want in Bed. The Surprising Facts Men Wish Women Knew About Sex
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Shawn Smith (2014)
Woman's Guide to How Men Think. Love, Commitment, and the Male Mind.
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Advice for women: |
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Don't be naive! Men think of sex, while women
think of love. This is certainly the most common
reason of misunderstanding between men and women. For women, sex
is usually part of a relationship, while for most men the two
can be
completely independent. |
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Don't take him too serious on the first date! Men want to impress, while women want to talk
and be understood. First dates between men and women often end
in mutual frustration. He tries to show off, while she tries to
talk and get to know him. That is precisely what he hates. He doesn't want to be known. He wants to be admired, respected
or even feared. On a first date men often do all kinds of stupid
and silly things - they are extremely rude, cynical and aggressive or show
off risky behavior (such as driving hands-off on a motor bike or
steering a car with their feet). Many serious (car) accidents
happen when men try to demonstrate their virility and impress a
woman on their first date. |
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Is he strong - or just brutal? Find out quickly! Men like to dominate while
women like to be courted
by a strong male.
Men often don't understand that women
like strength in a man, but hate brutality.
Most women are turned on, when a strong, powerful man is polite,
gentle, and attentive. She wants him to be aggressively
defending her. But there can be a fine line between male strength and abusive brutality. |
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Don't be attracted to
losers. One of the most
pathological relationships between men an women is the bond between a compassionate female and a male failure. Love affairs between
(former) prison inmates and social workers are notorious, but
there are all kinds of emotionally imbalanced relationships.
Some women seem to be unstoppably attracted to abusive men. She
always believes she can save him with her love. Forget this
nonsense and don't ruin your life. Don't mix up your motherly instincts with stupidity! |
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It's not your fault when he cheats! Women
typically believe that men cheat because they are not
attractive enough. Forget it! Men have cheated on the most
beautiful, attractive and sexy women - all too often with
some drunken, dirty slut they found in a bar. Don't ruin your health
with cosmetic surgery, waste your money on absurdly expensive cloths
or torture yourself with an insane diet - just to keep your man.
All this has absolutely nothing to do with his faithfulness. Most
men are faithful because they are too shy, too lazy, or really
afraid that they might lose the partner and family they love. |
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