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Why is marriage better than other arrangements?

Dad's response:

Because evolution has shaped us for marriage. For thousands of years a marriage was the safest living arrangement for a women and her children. Children, who were born into a family, had better chances to survive and prosper. Men, who took care of their family had better lives, usually lived longer and had higher chances to reproduce.

Because there is no better alternative. Marriage is still the most rewarding form of a relationship between a man and a woman. Period. Don't believe the nonsense that life is better in some other form of living arrangement. It's nothing but the steady propaganda of our mass media and cultural change activists that has given marriage a "bad name". There is absolutely no scientific evidence that any other form of partnership or cohabitation makes people more happy, is better for the children, or is more stable. To the contrary: All serious surveys (all over the world) show that "marriage and family" are the two most important elements of happiness in life.

A (relatively) stable relationship between a man and a woman is still the best environment for raising children. Our world is full of neglected, abused and emotionally disturbed children, who could not grow up in the loving care of mom and dad.



Linda Waite / Maggie
Gallagher (2001)
The Case for Marriage. Why married people are happier, healthier and better off financially.
Broadway Books

John Ashdown-Hill (2013)
Royal Marriage Secrets. Consorts & Concubines, Bigamists & Bastards.
The History Press

Stephen R. Covey (1999)
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families.
St Martin's Griffin

Sharon Lerner (2010)
The War on Moms. On Life in a Family-Unfriendly Nation.
John Wiley & Sons

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There all all kinds of living arrangements between men, women and children in the world. There is monogamy, polygamy, polygyny, polyandry, bigamy. Some families are matrifocal, others conjugal, and some avuncular (you can check out the mumbo-jumbo by clicking at the phrases). Anthropologist have thrived by describing these kinds of arrangements in various human societies. And even the common "western" marriage and family between men, women and their children is not always what it seems to be. There is infidelity, adultery, promiscuity, double standards for men and women; there are mistresses, courtesans, escorts, call girls and call boys, prostitutes and concubines. And most of all, there is divorce and separation. Families may be incomplete or include step-children and adopted children. But all this great variety and all the temptations and challenges cannot eliminate the fundamental desire of men and woman to have a stable relationship with love and security for their own children.

It would be stupid to ignore the threats to married life and the challenges to raising offspring in a family. In some counties, almost half the marriages end in divorce and there are scores of problems between between parents and children even in the best families. But living 15 or 20 years reasonably happy together before getting a divorce is still better than spending your evenings alone in a bar or numbing your loneliness through a succession of "one-night-stands".


Copyright 2014, 2015 by Gerhard K. Heilig. All rights reserved.

Updated: 3 February 2015